Some years back, I attended a friend's wedding. As we enjoyed the proceedings, the DJ kept us entertained with some of the sweetest music. Sometime into the proceedings, the DJ made a very critical musical blunder and ruined a perfect moment by playing the wrong song.
I'm sure many didnt notice.... but I did. Guess which song he played?
It was Tamia's rendition of Careless whisper.
It's a beautiful song, but at that moment, it was a horrible choice.
I could clearly tell he was oblivious to his mistake, but the lyrics to that song are of regret and a love gone wrong. So instead of being a celebration of love, such a song adds a whole new dimension to what is meant to be a beautiful occasion.
Maybe I'm the only one, but have you noticed how most of the sweetest love songs seem to be tainted by infidelity? Not to sound righteous or anything, but the theme is always:
"my partner ain't around, and you look fine"
or
"I'll do you better than your partner."
So as a result, some of the most iconic songs, including one of my favourite jams of all time- Nelly and Kelly's Dilemma- tend to get betrayed by the lyrics... especially when I'm in a healthy relationship and all I want to do is celebrate my significant other.
That's mainly because I pay particular attention to lyrics. I listen to every word. I put myself in the artist's shoes, connect with the emotion and get lost in the music.
I remember hearing "if loving you is wrong, I don't want to be right" some years ago.
Sounds sweet right?
As I got deeper into the song, I found myself somewhat conflicted when I got to the part where he says "I know I've got a wife and two little kids, that love me just as much".
To put things into context, the song is about a married man, who is telling his 'mistress' that despite knowing their relationship is wrong, he does not want to be right. It was his reality I guess.
It's an undeniable fact that there's a lot of nasty stuff happening in the world. These songs dig into the experiences of so many people and that is why they strike a chord. Love doesn't always go the way we expect it to.
I am not here to judge though. In this article I wanted to celebrate love and so I chose a few songs to amplify it when it goes right..
The following list is a compilation of some of my favourite hip hop and RnB love songs. These are songs that you can enjoy and vibe to if you're in a healthy, committed and loving relationship. More importantly, each of these songs has a beautiful deeper message.
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Why I chose these songs
20 Hip hop and RnB songs that give the best love advice
Sometimes love comes around...
I bet if I give all my love then nothing's gonna tear us apart
I'm making this promise to me and you
People keep talking. They can say what they like, but I don't worry coz everything's gonna be alright
Be easy, don't make decisions when you're mad
I want you to love me like I never left
I'm so into you
I'm gonna love you now like it's all I have
You the boss
A freak in the morning, a freak in the evening
Let me cater to you
We've got to make it work
Make it work- Neyo
Thank God I found you
Thank God I found you(Make it last Remix) Mariah Carey, Joe and Nas
I got your back
Got your back- TI feat Keri Hilson
Two wrongs don't make it right
Wyclef Jean feat City High
I wanna be the one who you believe in your heart is sent from Heaven
Heaven sent
You're all I need
All I need- Method Man feat Mary j. blige
K.I.S.S Me
U make me wanna- Jadakiss feat Mariah Carey
Partner let me upgrade you
Upgrade you- Beyoncè featuring Jay Z
Let's turn this house into a happy home
Happy home- Tupac
I hope you enjoyed my list of songs and more importantly, I hope you were inspired to love even more.
Love is a beautiful thing and it should be celebrated. One of the best ways to nurture and grow a true romance is by planting the right seeds. These seeds include the music we play and the messages we entertain in our minds.
Some messages might seem trivial, but over time we get conditioned to see things a certain way. A great example is how infidelity has become a norm or that love is all fun and games.
We need to be able to see things realistically, and at times the truth is that it requires some hard work, a little spicing up and a whole lot of forgiveness.
Much love XOXO
Oh... and before I go....
What do you think of my music selection? Let me know in the comments
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