The journey towards finding your prince charming is often filled with lots of distractions and sadly the process involves kissing a few frogs before you finally meet the one. I have noticed how women often fall prey to players and flat out bastards and what’s unfortunate is that they often fail to realise all the warning signs that a guy just does not give a hoot about them.... and this could be you, so just read on and hopefully this article could help you avoid having to nurse another broken heart.
There are a number of tell-tale signs that can definitely show you if he’s taking you seriously or is just plain whiling up time with you. Before I get into that here’s something important that I feel should be said:
“HE SHOULD BE THE ONE CHASING YOU... NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND”
That’s simply just how nature designed it to be. If he isn’t chasing you then there’s a good chance that he just isn’t feeling you. Here are a few pointers that I’m hoping you’ll find useful. Here goes....
1. HE ONLY COMMUNICATES WHEN IT’S CONVENIENT
This is often hard to detect and most guys will hide under the guise of being busy or something like that and only communicate when it’s convenient. In this case the guy probably has someone else whom he entertains. So look out for signs like when he ignores your calls during weekends... or he calls only when he needs you to come over.... or he’s online but tells you he forgot to log off.
2. HE AVOIDS MEETING YOU IN PUBLIC PLACES
In this scenario he might take you out to remote or secluded places and avoids having to walk around and be seen with you... it’s easy to think he just wants to spend quality time with you but this could also be because he doesn’t want to create a scene when his “real girlfriend” meets you guys together. Men normally want to flaunt the woman they love and if he avoids being seen with you in public it could mean he’s seeing someone else or he might not think you’re not on his level in terms of beauty and I don’t think you want to stay there. If he keeps you from visiting him in the office then that could be a sign that he isn’t taking you seriously.
3. ALWAYS BUSY
He always seems too busy either to be with you or to communicate. Let me go on record as saying this: “When a man is into you he will do everything in his power to make time for you”. He might be genuinely busy but he’ll find time to send you a message or a simple call. We’ve all been busy and out of the 24 hours that God blesses us with each day, I’m sure if you mean that much to him, he should be able to spare a few moments to share with you.
4. HE DOES NOT INVEST IN YOU
As a guy, I know how it feels to spend on a woman you love.... it feels great. If all the major holidays pass without him getting you anything noteworthy then you have reason to be concerned. In most cases this could mean you are either not worth it or he doesn’t plan to stick around for long so why invest in a sinking ship. No gifts, no presents, no airtime, nothing!!!Don’t confuse this for being frugal.
5. HE IGNORES YOU
If he goes for long periods without communicating, visiting or making an effort to come in contact with you then that’s probably the most obvious sign that he just isn’t into you. He just doesn’t want to tell you flat out that he’s not into you, so please; take the hint... before he does something really drastic.
6. HE AVOIDS INTRODUCTIONS
He avoids letting you meet the people that matter to him and when he does introduce you to them, he does so vaguely or casually to ensure you do not create an impression on them. Like I said earlier, if you are the love of his life he will want to show you off to his friends and relatives. If he has an excuse for not introducing you then you should be concerned... it could be something like “I want to protect you”. He might introduce you to a few friends but these could just be guys that he shares his exploits with and trust me, they just see you as some chick that he’s screwing. He will also avoid letting you introduce him to your relatives and friends coz he knows he won’t be around for long.
7. NO PUBLIC DISPLAYS OF AFFECTION
I remember dating a woman some years back who wasn’t as attractive as I would have wanted.... I always avoided being seen in public with her and when we did meet, I always tried to create the impression that she was JUST an acquaintance especially when we met my “beautiful” friends... If you sense that’s what he’s doing to you then make adjustments; you definitely deserve better.
8. HE COMES AND GOES.....
This is when he gives you sporadic bursts of attention. He comes and the loving is intense and then for some strange reason he vanishes... to return later. This is a dead giveaway that he could be a cheater. You could be the other woman in his life and when he comes to you it could be because his main woman is giving him problems or is away for a while. And since she’s unavailable he can give you all his attention and use you to try and fill the gap that she left. Then when she returns or they work things he forgets about you since you’re just a plan B.
9. CHANGE OF ROUTINE
When “your” daily routine changes and he seems to be pre-occupied and the change is unexplained then prepare yourself for the worst. The most obvious excuse is always too much work and yes it could be true, but be on high alert coz the extra workload could be your not-so-beautiful nemesis.
10. GO WITH YOUR GUT- FEELING
Oftentimes when someone is being unfaithful or dishonest we have the in-built ability to sense it. Guilt is always beyond doubt. If someone is taking you for granted then I am sure your heart will always tell you. You know how you want to be treated and you know what’s acceptable and what is not.
The following can be summarized in the infographic below
Those are jus a few things that you should look out for. The idea is for you to use this knowledge to help and keep you on the look out for things that could hurt you. These pointers are to help you ascertain whether you are in a healthy relationship or not, as well as to help you choose because I am sure you deserve better.
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