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Dating advice for single moms

The following is a compilation of tips and advice that I made based primarily on my experience dating single moms. I also have an army of 'sisters' and friends who confide in me. It's funny how everything seems easier when you're looking from the outside. I hope these tips will give you some insights into the male perspective... and more importantly, it keeps you from pushing away a great decent guy like myself ;-) So these recommendations are meant for any single mom who wants to move forward and is exploring the prospect of a long term relationship with someone new. I have written these with a friend or sister in mind... as the ultimate reader. So this is exactly the same advice I would give my own sister.  I hope you will find them as helpful as I intended them to be. I am however not an expert on love... no one is. So go through these with an open mind and enjoy love in its fullness. Now let's get into it... RECOMMENDED READING: HOW TO TELL IF YOU ARE WASTING Y

Jerk-proof: How to keep your heart safe from losers

I've watched helplessly as this whole, “men are dogs” theme gains popularity, and I honestly find it pretty offensive. Not that I feel I deserve an exemption, but because it is the same people who say it, that keep constantly choosing those bastards and leaving the good guys in the friendzone.  Uhm... just for the record, let me say, good men do exist. Though I might not be one of them myself; I have heard of them, I have seen some of them and in all honesty, I personally know some women who chose wisely and are genuinely happily in love. Not the facebook type of romance, but that joy that makes someone glow. So much that it radiates even onto oblivious onlookers and inadvertently turns them into unwavering disciples of love. A heartbroken friend of mine recently asked me where she could find a man without a wandering eye. As a man, I instinctively felt the strong urge to argue that nature designed us that way (and this is an argument I can back up with ease). At the same time, I f

The ultimate relationship test

In a previous article I outlined a number of truths that you should know about men. One of those truths was that you should not blindly believe everything he says to you. Just to clarify that even further... I am not saying treat him like a suspect all the time. I am just saying when he tells you he loves you, remember that these are just but words.... the true meaning will be found in his actions. Men by nature are marketers. We are all trying to get your attention and we will go to great lengths just to do this. So in this article, I will give you the ultimate relationship test to help you assess a new romance. CASE STUDY: MY INNOCENT CRUSH I remember this gorgeous girl I had a crush on back in high school. She was the sweet innocent church type. A beauty with sober habits, long black hair and dimples on her face. On the other hand, I was an aspiring rapper. Keepin' it unnecessarily real, always getting wasted and I hadn't seen the inside of a church in years. I knew howeve

5 things you can do right now to turn your relationship around

Over time many relationships lose the spark that held them together. The easy thing to do is to throw in the towel and simply look for that spark elsewhere. Many have taken that route and oftentimes the new spark fizzles out and we find ourselves on an endless chase in pursuit of true love. The harder alternative however, is remembering why you fell in love with that person, and then rekindling that spark. You might think your relationship is beyond redemption... and you might be right... but there's an even greater possibility that you are wrong. In this article, I will cover 5 things you can do right now to turn your relationship around.  These are a few simple tips about what you can do to make things work and win him back. 1. Decide you want it to work You will need to make a conscious decision that this is the man you chose and make peace with the fact that he is who he is. Once you have made that decision, try reminding yourself, how and why you fell in love with this bum. Tr

So you just found out he's cheating... What's next?

So you’ve seen the text messages or even walked in on him and his side-chick getting busy. You’re angry and that's understandable. Maybe you want to pull her weave off, or to key his car.... I believe he deserves it but let's think about this for a minute. Remember, if you end up in jail then he wins. It is now up to you to decide what to do next. Whether you choose to leave or stay, both options are perfectly fine and I will give you my thoughts on it. I have explained in detail why men cheat , but there are some things I also want you to understand. These will protect you and I hope they will also help you through the healing process. I am not here to justify cheating, but I’ve been there before, as both the cheater and the victim. My intention is to keep it one hunid with you and help you through this.  Let’s start with a few things that you should try by all means to avoid.  What you shouldn't do   1. Don’t ask "why?" Asking for a reason tells him you want

Which woman are you to him?

One of the questions that I often have to answer from women is “Why do men cheat?” This alone is a broad subject and thus I will try to break it down into a number of sub-topics to help you understand it better. I think the first question that a woman has to ask herself is – Who am I in this man’s life?  This will go a long way in ascertaining why he cheated and what is the possibility that he might cheat? As I promised I am going to be brutally honest and so please bear with me because some of the words I will use will be strong and some of you may even find derogatory but this is a mere peak into the world of men and most of it is plain guy talk. This article seeks to classify women according to men and please note that I am referring to women with whom a guy has an intimate emotional link or connection of some sort and not relations to the guy. So let’s get into it…. 1.        THE PERFECT WOMAN   Some of you may argue that this does not exist, but I am here to say such a woman exist

9 truths about men that every woman should know

  1 .        He should be the one chasing you... not the other way around. 2.        She’s just a friend my foot 3.        You can not change him 4.        Sex will not trick him into staying 5.        Keep your friends away from him 6.        We cant handle long distance relationships 7.        Just because we ask, it does not mean you should give us 8.        Don’t believe everything we say to you 9.        We care about you 

10 ways to tell if you're wasting your time on a guy

The journey towards finding your prince charming is often filled with lots of distractions and sadly the process involves kissing a few frogs before you finally meet the one. I have noticed how women often fall prey to players and flat out bastards and what’s unfortunate is that they often fail to realise all the warning signs that a guy just does not give a hoot about them.... and this could be you, so just read on and hopefully this article could help you avoid having to nurse another broken heart. There are a number of tell-tale signs that can definitely show you if he’s taking you seriously or is just plain whiling up time with you. Before I get into that here’s something important that I feel should be said:              “HE SHOULD BE THE ONE CHASING YOU... NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND” That’s simply just how nature designed it to be. If he isn’t chasing you then there’s a good chance that he just isn’t feeling you. Here are a few pointers that I’m hoping you’ll find useful.  Here goes